Don’t surprise me! Don’t do it. I am anti-surprises. I can just imagine people looking at me like I said I was anti-Christ. I am the first to admit that I don’t view the world like most people. I am one of those ‘weird’ people. I am one of those individuals that question everything and believe that there is always more to things than meets the eyes (or ears). So if you know me, then this should not come as a surprise to you. For the rest of you, are you surprised? Is this shocking to you?
What is the big deal with surprises? Why do we feel the need to surprise others? As far as I am concerned surprises are overrated. What is so appealing about doing something for somebody without their knowledge or consent? In its basic form, that’s what a surprise is. My biggest problem with a surprise is that it is more about the giver than the receiver. Think about it, who benefits from a surprise? Well if you properly orchestrate a surprise, then it can be mutually beneficial, but that is hardly ever the case. Some people will say it’s the thought that counts. What does that mean? The fact that you decided to do something for me is more important than whatever it is that you are doing for me? The reason people give surprises is that of how it makes them feel. They get some satisfaction from the act & that is topped off by the receiver’s reaction. That to me is giving somebody a gift but wanting to enjoy the gift as well. You don’t find that to be a little weird? What is so wrong with asking or finding out what somebody likes & then doing/getting it? Somewhere throughout history, society decided that it was unacceptable to ask someone what they wanted before getting them a gift. Apparently, if I get you exactly what you wanted, then it means I care less about you, or less thought went into the gift or action.
In all my life I have maybe received one or two well-orchestrated surprises. All the others were busts. I have had to pretend to me oblivious to a surprise gift/party to spare the giver’s feelings. My second problem with surprises is the reaction. Not only does the giver want to do something for you without your knowledge, but they also want to control your response. One of the most awkward situations you will ever face is pretending you like a gift, especially surprise gifts given in front of a group of people. My belief as far as surprises are concerned is that the receiver should be allowed to react naturally (whatever that might be) & the giver should accept this. In other words, you can’t get upset at the reaction. Sadly I don’t believe that society has reached that point as yet, and I am not surprised.
What do you think? What are your views on surprises? Am I just ‘weird’?