search instagram arrow-down
Renegade Expressions

Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 1,216 other followers

Follow Renegade Expressions on WordPress.com
The Mystery Blogger Award

Photo credit senczyszak.com

Liebster Award

Liebster Award

Blogger Recognition Award
The Versatile Blogger Award, Blogging,

Blog Stats

Top Posts

Recent Posts

Archives

Categories

Blogs I Follow

Tags

2014 World Cup Africa Bahamas Baltimore Birding Birds Black History Blogging Cayman CB&W CFFC Challenge COB Conspiracy Cooking CWW Death Delaware Entertainment EPL Florida Food Football History Injustice Jamaica Life Lifestyle Maryland Media Music Music History Nature New Jersey Pennsylvania Peter Tosh Poetry Predictions Premier League Reggae Relationships Shocking Soccer Sports St. Maarten Vegetarian Virginia Washington DC Weekly Photo Challenge Wildlife

Meta

oh baby, no baby. I don't want to have children. i don't want to have kids.You finally meet your Miss/Mr. Right. This person is funny, smart, ambitious and not to mention great in the bed. It’s been months, and you still haven’t seen any red flags. No drug or gambling habits, no baby mother/baby daddy crawling from out the woodwork. Everything is going great. You start thinking long-term. You can’t help but think to start planning for a future together, then one of you casually mentions having children. Something like “I think you would make a great parent when the time comes”. After all, everybody wants to have kids right? Wrong! Your Miss/Mr. Right declares that they don’t want to have kids. You give them a look. You know the same look you would give them if you found out that they didn’t believe in God. “What do you mean; you don’t want to have kids?” As if asking such a question is going to change their mind. It doesn’t and it won’t.

oh baby, no baby. I don't want to have children. i don't want to have kids.

We take for granted that everybody should want to have children. We often forget that people have a right to choose whether they reproduce or not. All around us, we see people having babies as if it is a competition (truth be told, for some people it is). Their ‘biological clock’ starts ticking and they go coo-coo. The bible did say “be fruitful and multiply…” that line or some version of it is oft-quoted when people are trying to convince somebody that they are going against God by not reproducing. The second part of that bible verse says “…and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth”. It is safe to say that the earth is not in need of replenishing (but we could always do with more fowl and fish). In fact, it is the opposite. Some of us could do the world a huge favor by not reproducing (especially in places like Jamaica). We can’t deny that a lot of our social problems are as a result of every ‘Tom,’ ‘Dick’, and ‘Harry’ and ‘Pinky’ wantonly reproducing. I will not get into the supposed link between unwanted/unplanned pregnancies and crime.

So, why would somebody capable of reproducing, not want to? The reason people have for not wanting to bring a life into this world should be completely justified, whatever it might be. Why should these people be viewed as selfish or weird? I know individuals who don’t like animals. They don’t want to see them, be around them or own them. I am not comparing animals with babies (well maybe I am). If we can look past somebody not wanting to own pets, then we should be OK with someone not wanting to bring a child into this world. Having a child is a lot of responsibility (something too much people take for granted) and commitment, much more so than owning a pet. I am ashamed to say that I know individuals who had kids just because they could, even though they had no means of taking care of them. But what about people who have the means but still don’t want kids?

oh baby, no baby. I don't want to have children. i don't want to have kids.

There is nothing wrong with making a conscious decision to have a baby as long as you are financially, emotionally and physically able to take care of one. Conversely, there is nothing wrong with making a conscious decision NOT to have a baby EVEN if you can financially, emotionally and physically take care of one. Some might say it is unfair to be able to conceive and care for a child and still choose not to when there are people out there hoping and praying for a miracle. Those who have difficulties conceiving spend exorbitant amounts of money for the opportunity to bring their ‘bundle of joy’ into the world. When all else fails, some turn to adoption, because society (or the Bible) tells us that our lives cannot be complete without having children. Having children is a blessing…you are not any less blessed if you can’t or decide that you don’t want to have kids.

oh baby, no baby. I don't want to have children. i don't want to have kids.

Whatever our feelings are on this issue, we need to remember that a man/woman should not be viewed less than a man/woman because they are unable or choose not to reproduce.

4 comments on “Oh Baby, No Baby.

  1. ambrosiaomg says:

    When they show me pictures of their offspring, people (especially women) look at me weird when I don’t immediately melt into a puddle and declare how desperately I want to have children. I’ve never really understood the whole biological clock business. I’m certainly not against having children, and I can understand that it’s an important undertaking, but it’s also not a goal for me. As I get older I’m even less inclined. I have the utmost respect for people who make either choice because it means they have consciously decided on the path they want to take.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Everyday our society gets more liberal and accepting, hopefully one day soon we will stop questioning and stigmatizing persons who decide not to have kids.

      Like

  2. cyah1983 says:

    Oh baby,No baby!
    To be or not to be!
    To PROCREATE or Not!
    Way back when Joseph was happy with Mary carrying his none biological child! I don’t recall hearing anyone questioning Mary and Joseph why they don’t have children together😇😇😇SO BIOLOGICAL OR NOT Every human have a95% of being a parent to niece/nephew /cousin/ friend…etcetera.

    Like

    1. Those are great points. ☺ Thanks for reading and commenting. ☺

      Like

Express Yourself!
Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Touchin' Jamaica

Jamaika zum Anfassen - Reiseberichte, Erfahrungen, Tipps und Tricks von Jamaika-Insidern

THE JOUSKA

Mindless conversations being played out in one's head...

Goody on a Budget

A Guide to Being a Young Adult on the Cheap

Living Life Forte

good food, good wine, great adventures

tastyislandcrate

Caribbean Food, News, People, and Culture

That Traveling Hippie

Midwest Girl Traveling the World

Steve Grundy Photography

A quest for the perfect light

%d bloggers like this: